I'm married female my 40's and have reached my ual peak. Its driving me crazy ! Does anybody else relate?

I'm in my 40's, married female who has reached peak. Its driving me crazy, thinking about it "all the time"!! Even asked male friend to join in as 3some. Acted like I offered poison. So did hubby when I brought the subject up. Since when are men so repressed? I feel liberated, yet kept in a box...with all this ual tension. Is anyone else out there going thru or has gone thru same? I tried hobbies to keep me busy, but mind and body keep going back to . So frustrating!